Sometimes we find ourselves in situations that don’t have clear answers. We cannot think of a Bible story or verse that helps direct us in a way that makes sense. We pray for guidance, but we don’t always feel like we know how to handle the situation. This happens to everyone. We take advice from others, and we do the best we can.
I know that almost every parent I have ever met has had their child’s best interests in mind. Parents want to raise their children well. Somewhere along the line, we sometimes get off track.
I had a conversation yesterday with two football moms. These moms have little boys in the fourth grade, age 9, playing football in the same league. They were talking about some parents who were forcing their kids to play. The kids clearly hate it. These kids cry at every practice.
I try hard to not be too harsh on these parents. This may be their first time raising a nine year old. I have spent a decade working with ten year olds. I don’t pretend to know everything, but I know enough that I can tell them the kid isn’t ever going to want to play football. It will be a rare case if the kid suddenly decides they like playing the sport when they are this miserable at every single practice.
So why are they doing it? Is it mean? One parent could be overheard saying that the kid is overweight. Football would help. One parent may think football will toughen up their kid and prepare him for rough times in life. Others may want their sons to feel a sense of camaraderie with their teammates.
Little boys can be tough to raise, but their aren’t always tough kids. My advice to people in situations such as these parents would be to find someone who raised several boys. Find a parent who worked hard to raise her sons in a Christian way. Look at these boys and determine if their life is one you want your son to emulate. Then keep praying. God is a parent, too. These professionals can probably guide you well.